Whose Business Is This?

"Loving What Is" by Byron Katie

     "I can find 3 kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours, and God's. (For me, God means "reality". Reality is God because it rules. Anything that's out of my control, your control, and everyone else's control - I call that God's business.)

      Much of our stress comes from living out of our own business. When I think, "You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better  care of yourself," I am in your business. When I am worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God's business. If I am mentally in your business or in God's business, the effect is separation. I noticed this early in 1986. When I mentally went into my mother's business, for example, with a thought like "My mother should understand me," I immediately experienced a feeling of loneliness. And I realized that every time in my life that I had felt hurt or lonely, I had been in someone else's business.
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     To think that I know what's best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety and fear. Do you know what's right for me? That is my only business. Let me work with that before I try to solve your problems for you.

     If you understand the 3 kinds of business enough to stay in your own business, it could free your life in  a way that you can't even imagine. The next time you are feeling stress or discomfort, ask yourself whose business you're in mentally, and you may burst out laughing! That question can bring you back to yourself. And you may come to see that you've never really been present, that you've been mentally living in other people's business all your life.

     And if you practice it for a while, you may come to see that you don't have any business either and that your life runs perfectly well on its own."

Byron Katie
"Loving What Is"
http://www.thework.com/thework.asp

"Projection: A Cause for Confusion"

"Projection is the error of attaching an aspect of your inner life onto someone or something on the outside. This way, you do not have to take responsibility for it. In projecting a disowned part of yourself, you endow other people and things with the power to make you blissful or miserable. Then you turn around and praise or blame the person or situation, while all the while you are reacting to an unconscious, inner part of yourself."

Robert Johnson & Jerry Ruhl
"Contentment - A Way to True Happiness"

I have been working on this for what seems like an eternity. And it has been! lol! I don't think it ever ends... :-)

Our True Nature

"To realize your true nature,
you must wait for

 the right moment and the right conditions. 

When the time comes,
you are awakened as if from a dream. 

You understand that what you have found is your own

and doesn't come from anywhere outside."

Buddhist Sutra

New Look at Serving & Following

"The awareness that 

the best road is 

not necessarily 

the most interesting."

Gate 17 - Line 3
Rave I'Ching - Ra Uhu Ru

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"Following can mean joining another on the path toward yourself. Loved ones and friends can be disturbed by what they perceive as a preoccupation with something they don't understand. They can  become angry or fearful at what seems to them to be your withdrawal from the "ways things used to be." They will probably be points at which your principles and the choices you make will be challenged, but standing your ground will bring benefits far beyond any apparent losses you might face as a consequence."

17 Following - Line 3
The Toa Oracle (Inspired by the I'Ching)
By Ma Deva Padma